Sometimes you just run out of things to write about. Not because they don’t exist, but because you have to keep a certain level of honesty or consideration of context in mind. There’s a wonderfully vague corporate term, “stakeholder management” that really comes into play in this sort of situation. If you want to preserve any degree of anonymity, vagueness has to play a crucial role in the process.

When you write though, that’s all completely counter-productive. After all, how in the world are you supposed to come up with something worth reading if all you can do is compose nebulous statements?

“The weather in a city other than my home-town is pleasant.”

“When I am not sitting at home, which may or may not be due to travelling, either domestically or internationally, I may or may not have liaisons that could be presumed to be of a sexual nature with some individuals.”

I mean, really. It’s like your life takes on enormous legal overtones, with disclaimers peppering every situation. And part of that is because you have to be extra-careful about accidentally exposing people to other people, but really it’s because sometimes you don’t really know what it is you want to write about–or more accurately, you know what you can’t or shouldn’t write about, but the kosher stuff is too hard to figure out. Which means you’re up at 2:00 a.m. on a week-night, blithely ignoring the fact that empirical evidence indicates that without at least five hours of sleep, you’re a fucking zombie for more than half the day, and no amount of caffeine can really bring that issue to a happy resolution.

The first steps in trying to establish common ground are tricky, but not as tricky as the second, third, fourth (and so on). The first three go well, but then there’s this odd hurdle, a little wooden stile of emotion that blocks rational thought. You want to try and understand what your next step should or could be (more should than could, because this is as far as you’ve ever got in your life, and the very thought of restarting sends chills up and down your spine, it gives you that queasy feeling in the gut of your stomach like when you’re trying to hold back tears, it makes you shiver with anticipation and fear all at once); and more than that, it paralyses you in a bizarre holding pattern of expectation and dread.

What do I do next?

So if you’re me, you try not to send too many text messages, or at the very least, you keep them as light-hearted and non-pressure-creating as possible. You don’t call much or very often, and you try to stop your mind from whirling away on a maelstrom of worry, of why hasn’t he called? and is it too much if I tell him that I really enjoyed his company, and he’s in a totally different place in his life, what if he decided that it wasn’t going to work? or worst of all, as a special someone might panic, oh no what if he thinks I’m fat?

I mean, the fact that I am as a matter of objectivity about 20 pounds overweight only adds to this angst.

So for now, after multiple cups of decaf and hand-holding, deep breathing definitely seems to be the way forward. Over-thinking things comes naturally to me, which is why at this point in time I’m lying in bed playing online Risk and trying to maintain the oxygen content of my blood at an optimum level. And hoping, with only a slight whiff of desperation, that he likes me as much as I think I’m finding that I like him.

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